OUTREACH: CRAVING FOR THE MOTHER, THE CHILD IN US

Therapy Observations: by Komal Agarwal

When the child is born, the first touch of the mother gives him/her assurance of existence. By conceiving us inside her womb, the mother is the first one to define meaning of 'love' and 'intimacy' to us.

If for any reason, the intimacy with mother is not complete as desired, the child in us keeps longing and seeking this love in every close relationship.

When the child grows, at personality level this gets manifested as clinginess and insecurity with love partners, attention seeking acts, craving for love, sexual addictions, excessive eating, commitment phobia, discomfort in very close or intimate relationships, lack of trust, changing partners too frequently, fear of love, aggression, rebel, inability to express emotions or over expression of emotions etc.

This might also lead to differences among couple as you start seeking a mother in your partner than being an equal.

In work, this might result in need for spoon feeding, over dependency on bosses, seeking appreciation etc.

At physical level this might get manifested as weight gain especially around stomach and intimate areas.

Such dynamics can be explored and healed through Systemic Family & Business Constellations. 

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